Our frustration is greater when we have much and want more than when we have nothing and want some. We are less dissatisfied when we lack many things than when we seem to lack but one thing.
-Eric Hoffer
It is almost a week in Bangalore, and I am still adjusting in the city of gardens. Reason is not that I am completely unknown to city or it is drastically different from other cities but the reason is quite odd, the professional working here react unexpectedly on common situations. The essence of relationship is still well maintained but it is also having a potion of self oriented attitude and PR management attributes. And when asked about this unexpected and and unusual change, the response points toward "So-Called-Maturity".
I had been having rounds of drinks with different categories of friends; from childhood friends to ex-company colleagues, old friends with whom I shared almost 14 hours of my each day in school/college days to old flatmates. And one common thing which I found as a conclusion is that, in all the cases when I had drunk during the last few days, the reason for drinking is not at all the old one "Old friends get together" but more of a common reason for professionals; TGIF, weekend enjoyment. Because they usually kill their frustations of the whole working week with this stuff. I feel like anyone can just bumped into their usual routine and became the part of routine, nothing much effected them.
To get into the core of this more common still much unexpected attitude change, I tried to dig most of my friends' hearts about their current life (both personal and professional). And got much expected answer "Nothing much yaar, nothing interesting, same routine life". But change was visible and was written all over the wall.
Now just generalize the situation, people are getting so professional in their approach to everything including relations and life that they don't even realize, where they are using this logic, even if it doesn't fit in, they try to squeeze it in. I am not saying being professional is bad or not a good idea, it's just that professionalism should be in approach towards work and life but not in relations.
Sometimes, I find people getting frustrated from the situation they have created or they are in, and the only way out which they find is being changed to so-called-professional. I have no idea if it solves their problem or not, NO IDEA BOSS.
You want to think and say that you have everytning you need, but then you realize that something is missing, someone is missing... and once you think you've found it, it goes and disappears on you and you don't understand what to do or even where to start looking for that missing piece of the puzzle. You sit at home in lonely frustration and you just wait...wait...and wait. No where to look, no one to look for...
Situations make them believe that they cannot change anything, not even themselves, forget about changes others or bringing the change in society.
Consider how hard it is to change yourself and you'll understand what little chance you have in trying to change others.
Update : It's been a long time in Bangalore now, this city has changed me a lot, I have seen a lot, learnt a lot, forgot a lot, lost a lot, been a lot now ...
Life is not an easy matter... You cannot live through it without falling into frustration and cynicism unless you have before you a great idea which raises you above personal misery, above weakness, above all kinds of perfidy and baseness. -Leo Trotsky
I just forgot why I started this post and how the title is related to the content of the post, but this is what it is ...
No matter how discouraged we get, God has not asked us to do the impossible -George Grace